Black love is damaged but not broken.

So many black women and men are scarred by childhood and adulthood trauma that by the time they meet someone to love it's a struggle.  How do you love someone in a healthy manner when you barely have a healthy love of yourself? 

We need to work on ourselves as individuals to prepare for a healthy relationship yet no one wants to be alone.
It's an unfair catch-22. 

The challenge of repairing black love seems to be too hard and draining but it's necessary.  Without true love we are lost and our survival is slim.  Let's learn to heal ourselves and each other.  Our future depends on it.

POWER UP!

THE NEED TO SUCCEED

Some people say that they don't accomplish their goals for others but for themselves.  That's NOT me...

I have to succeed because I OWE it to my ancestors who paved the way for me, ESPECIALLY my maternal grandmother and grandfather who came to Cleveland from Alabama during the 50's to have a better life.

I have to succeed for my lineage and the children who may look up to me, ESPECIALLY in the African-American Community.  I HAVE to lead by example.

I succeed for others so I can be proud of myself and my accomplishments, PERIOD... POWER UP!

THE SINGLE MOTHER DILEMMA

As of late, I've been having indepth conversations with single mothers, especially those with sons, for mentoring program.  It really troubles me to see how many males are not positively active in their child(ren)'s life/lives.

I just read a sister's post about the love for her son.  She stated that eventhough she's been a single mother for several years, her and her son haven't missed anything...  Wow, is that what we've come to?  Black men are so absent that our women have learned to accept it and thrive?

One thing I'm learning in my conversations and experiences with single mothers, women are amazing and will do anything for their children.  However, behind the scenes, they are hurting and suffering from the lack of a MAN (not just a male) being in the household.

Brothers, we HAVE to do better and teach our boys how to do better.  Each one teach one after you reach one...
POWER UP!